Comments on: Adoption in the Land of Make-Believe http://twicetherice.wordpress.com/2006/08/18/adoption-in-the-land-of-make-believe/ Open mind. Insert perspective. Fri, 18 Jan 2008 13:18:25 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Andrea http://twicetherice.wordpress.com/2006/08/18/adoption-in-the-land-of-make-believe/#comment-4060 Andrea Fri, 08 Sep 2006 06:02:33 +0000 https://twicetherice.wordpress.com/2006/08/18/adoption-in-the-land-of-make-believe/#comment-4060 Hi Ji-In, Goddess I hate the misappropriation of the red thread! These people need to use their own damn folklore, at least then they have a tiny chance of getting it somewhere close to right. Sigh... Anyway, you've probably found it already, but here is a reasonable retelling of something that appears to be close to the original red thread story (not that there would be any one original of something like this, but this is at least the right sort of thing): http://eng.soundofhope.org/article.aspx?catID=578&newsID=22898 It is a radio link, but there is a transcript also. Basically the story is about marriage, as you said. I've seen some say it is supposedly about "lovers" but to me it seems more like a justification for arranged marriage, whether arranged by parents or by fate or an old man/god or whatever. Anyway, the part that really gets me is that in the story the future husband tries to KILL the future wife when she is a small child, by having his servant STAB her! He ends up only making a deep scar on her forehead, and years later when she's grown up and they are happily married he asks why she always has this jewel on her forehead and she tells him about how she got stabbed and they share their AMAZING CONNECTION! I ask you, is this the type of connection these adoptive parents want to have with their children?!?!?! "I had your birthfamily STABBED so we could be together! Isn't it amazing how much I love you and how much we belong together!" UNBELIEVABLE! Sometimes I think adopting must do something screwy to the brain such that you are blinded to any perspectives but your own. Andrea (a-parent who certainly has many flaws, but is trying for my child's sake) Hi Ji-In,
Goddess I hate the misappropriation of the red thread! These people need to use their own damn folklore, at least then they have a tiny chance of getting it somewhere close to right. Sigh…
Anyway, you’ve probably found it already, but here is a reasonable retelling of something that appears to be close to the original red thread story (not that there would be any one original of something like this, but this is at least the right sort of thing):
http://eng.soundofhope.org/article.aspx?catID=578&newsID=22898

It is a radio link, but there is a transcript also. Basically the story is about marriage, as you said. I’ve seen some say it is supposedly about “lovers” but to me it seems more like a justification for arranged marriage, whether arranged by parents or by fate or an old man/god or whatever. Anyway, the part that really gets me is that in the story the future husband tries to KILL the future wife when she is a small child, by having his servant STAB her! He ends up only making a deep scar on her forehead, and years later when she’s grown up and they are happily married he asks why she always has this jewel on her forehead and she tells him about how she got stabbed and they share their AMAZING CONNECTION!

I ask you, is this the type of connection these adoptive parents want to have with their children?!?!?! “I had your birthfamily STABBED so we could be together! Isn’t it amazing how much I love you and how much we belong together!” UNBELIEVABLE! Sometimes I think adopting must do something screwy to the brain such that you are blinded to any perspectives but your own.

Andrea
(a-parent who certainly has many flaws, but is trying for my child’s sake)

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